10 S.x Positions To Try Every Day Of The Month

If you’ve been with your partner for a while, there’s a good chance you’ve developed something of a routine when it comes to sex. Maybe your brain isn’t a catalogue of 900 different sex position names with instructions on how to do them, but you generally know what works for you both and what to expect. Knowing exactly how to get yourself off is great, but throwing down in the same spooning-to-doggy routine every time you do the dirty can get repetitive. Keeping your sex life exciting can be tough, but it’s important to make sure you’re happy with that area of your relationship. If you or your partner start to feel bored, it can affect your bond.

1 Modified Doggy

How to do it: Start in doggy style and then lower down onto your elbows — or start laying on your stomach and lift up slightly. Either way, a pillow under your hips can help make it more comfortable and usually helps make doggy feel even better.

Why it’s worth a try: It’s a favorite — it’s got the intensity and G-spot stimulation of doggy, but it’s a more intimate variation. “If a receiver doesn’t love doggy, it’s often for two reasons — penetration in this position might be too deep for them, or they feel like it’s not intimate enough,” Queen tells Bustle. “The closer body contact of this position can help with both, plus it’s very easy to go to or from classic doggy in this position.”

2 In A Chair

How to do it: While your partner sits in a chair, lower yourself down while facing them. You can bounce or grind on them, and it’s a great position for dirty talk.

Why it’s worth a try: An easy way to mix things up, this position has a kinky feel while still being super easy. “Choose a stable, sturdy chair, please,” urges Queen.

3 Cowgirl (Or Rider)

How to do it: Straddle your partner and slowly lower yourself down. You can lean forward and rest your weight in your hands or lean back instead, whichever is more comfortable.

Why it’s worth a try: You get to be in total control in this one. You can go for some clitoral play or just enjoy setting the pace and providing much of the movement. “This can help build arousal higher for those who are accustomed to lying prone, on the bottom,” Queen says. “[This is] one more reason why so many cowgirls (or cowfolks) find it easier to orgasm in this position.”

4 Reverse Cowgirl (Or Reverse Rider)

How to do it: Lower down onto your partner but facing their feet. It’s a sexy position, but because you can’t see your partner’s face, make sure they’re comfortable — things can get messy quick. “A lot of times the direction of an erection can dictate which penetrative sex positions are feasible or not,” explains sex educator Lola Jean. “Add that to the list of reasons strap-on play is beneficial! Reverse cow-person is best for those who don’t have a more exaggerated north facing erection or dildo.”

Why it’s worth a try: It’s got all of the benefits of regular cowgirl, but with a kinky twist.

5 The Voyeur

How to do it: It’s just doggy style, but with an edge — a third partner playing with themselves. And of course, you can switch up the threesome sex positions so everyone gets a try.

Why it’s worth a try: Hey, if you’re going to mix it up, mix it way up. “Some people like watching, some like being watched! Ask each person what it is they enjoy out of their position and how they’d like to interact while in it,” says Jean. “Perhaps across the room doesn’t feel as intimate as right underneath both of your bodies.” A third party totally changes the dynamic.

6 Weak In The Knees

How to do it: One partner straddles the other’s face and lowers down onto them. You can take turns controlling the pressure and play around with fingers and toys, as well as oral sex.

Why it’s worth a try: Just go for it. “Face sitting is all the rage these days, but as playful as it may seem, this is a form of breath play! Be conscious of how many air pathways are being blocked and establish non-verbal communication (like pinching or multiple taps on the other person’s body) to signal when they need more air,” offers Jean. This is a position that is carnal in all the best ways. It’s really intimate but also really sexy.

7 X Marks The Spot

How to do it: Laying toward the edge of the bed while your partner stands, rest your legs on their chest. Cross at the ankle or the knees, whichever is more comfortable.

Why it’s worth a try: It’s an unusual position where you both get a great view of what’s happening. Plus, by playing around with how you cross your legs, you can mix up the intensity. “Crossing your legs tighter can add pressure that might feel really good,” notes Queen. “And if you think it could feel even better, this is an excellent position to add clit play.”

8 Doggy With Vibrator

How to do it: Go for doggy but add your favorite sex toy into the mix. You can control it or let your partner take the reins.

Why it’s worth a try: It’s all of the G-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation all at once. “This might be a great one to try wearable vibes with; face-to-face positions can sometimes shift or dislodge them, but this is less likely to do that,” Queen tells Bustle.

9 Three-Legged Dog

How to do it: Face your partner with your feet slightly apart, then slowly lift one leg over your partner’s hip while you guide them inside of you. If you’re new to this position, stay close to the bed or to a wall for balance.

Why it’s worth a try: It’s a tricky position, so you’ll feel great when you nail it. “Standing sex gives you a whole new angle, but it can also activate muscles you aren’t used to using,” notes Jean. “Don’t be afraid to pop a leg or two into an over-the-door sex swing for support.” Plus, once you get the hang of it, it will be perfect for quickies.